Tuesday, April 2, 2013
The Daily Princetonian: Advice for the Young Women of Princeton: The Daughters I Never Had, by Susan A. Patton (President of the Class of 1977):
Forget about having it all, or not having it all, leaning in or leaning out — here’s what you really need to know that nobody is telling you. ...
For most of you, the cornerstone of your future and happiness will be inextricably linked to the man you marry, and you will never again have this concentration of men who are worthy of you.
Here’s what nobody is telling you: Find a husband on campus before you graduate. Yes, I went there. ...
Smart women can’t (shouldn’t) marry men who aren’t at least their intellectual equal. As Princeton women, we have almost priced ourselves out of the market. Simply put, there is a very limited population of men who are as smart or smarter than we are. And I say again — you will never again be surrounded by this concentration of men who are worthy of you.
Of course, once you graduate, you will meet men who are your intellectual equal — just not that many of them. And, you could choose to marry a man who has other things to recommend him besides a soaring intellect. But ultimately, it will frustrate you to be with a man who just isn’t as smart as you. ...
If I had daughters, this is what I would be telling them.
- Susan Patton, Why I Told Female Princeton Students to Find a Husband (Huffington Post)
- Music Video, The Ivy league Hustle (I Went to Princeton, B****) (language warning)
- Above the Law, Read This or Die Alone: Advice for the Young Women of Law School
- American Lawyer, Don't Leave School Without a Husband!
- Megan McCardle, You Should Get Married As Early as Possible, But No Earlier (The Daily Beast)
- New York Magazine, Princeton Mom to All Female Students: ‘Find a Husband’
- Eugene Volokh (UCLA), When to Marry? (The Volokh Conspiracy)
- Wall Street Journal, Susan Patton Told the Truth